Dear Mary

Dear Mary: what do you do if you spill red wine on a sofa?

23 June 2019 15:49

No matter how much you loved Boris you would find it maddening if he spilled red wine on your sofa. …

Is money an appropriate wedding present?

31 May 2018 22:04

Dear Mary: I have been invited to the wedding of a distant relative through marriage, to her long-term partner. I…

Dear Mary: Nigel Slater asks how to seem grateful for bad presents

24 December 2015 13:00

From Nigel Slater Q. With each passing year (I am nearly 60, for heaven’s sake), I am finding it increasingly…

Dear Mary: How can I remedy an insult to my bookshop customers?

15 December 2015 11:00

From Nicky Dunne, Heywood Hill bookshop Q. A much admired actor rang our bookshop to send a hardback copy of…

Dear Mary: How do I use my newly raised profile to meet celebrities?

16 December 2014 11:00

From Mr N.M. Gwynne Q. Have you any suggestions on how I could milk my newly raised profile (as a…

Dear Mary: What would Mrs Fulford like for Christmas?

15 December 2014 11:00

From Francis Fulford Q. Have you any suggestions for what to give my wife for Christmas? She doesn’t want anything…

Dear Mary: Tom Hodgkinson asks how to earn more money

14 December 2014 11:00

From Tom Hodgkinson, Idler Academy Q. I have started my own academy where adults can learn skills such as ukulele, philosophy…

Dear Mary: Jesse Norman asks how to deal with defectors

13 December 2014 11:00

From Jesse Norman MP Q. We’ve been having a little local difficulty at work with one or two colleagues who…

Dear Mary: Tatler’s editor asks how to cope with her new-found fame

11 December 2014 11:00

From Kate Reardon, Tatler Q. I recently took part (some might say ‘starred’) in a highly acclaimed BBC2 fly-on-the-wall documentary…

Dear Mary on mobile phone etiquette, playing bridge, and the weather

3 July 2013 11:29

The Spectator’s Mary Killen — otherwise known as ‘Dear Mary‘ — was on Radio 4’s Today programme this morning discussing whether…